How to Recognize a Female Dating Scammer
Dating scams
Dating scams have become quite common in the online world today. With the increasing number of people now turning to chat, dating, and social networking sites to meet new people and find romance, scammers and crooks from all parts of the world are licking their chops at the many obtainable opportunities they now have. Although it seems no networking site is totally immune, many of them are now taking the issue with great seriousness and are implementing more elaborate security measures. However, these scammers are becoming more sophisticated as well, finding and exploiting any loophole available. The only way to curb this problem is to bombard the online world with information and warnings. When we succeed in getting rid of naïve victims, then perhaps we can finally rid the internet of these scammers.
Addressing the issue
Although there has been a lot of talk lately about Nigeria and the Ivory Coast, the reality is that these scammers are located in different parts of the world. Hence, addressing this issue is not always as simple as merely blocking visitors (IPs) from just one or two countries, since many of these scammers access the internet via satellite servers, using the IPs of other neighboring countries. Most of the best dating sites are now prohibiting mass emails and taking precautions to further monitor emails for scam-appropriate language, such as email addresses spelled out (e.g., markfrankatgmaildotcom). The good sites can block tricks like this and are doing so each day with more and more refinement. However, even the best dating and social networking sites cannot detect everything. This is the major reason why online users must be well educated and informed.
How it happens
How to Recognize a Female Dating Scammer
For most scammers, they will simply log into a website (dating or social networking site) and send a general message to members who fit their particular standard. For instance, if the scammer is impersonating an attractive female, he or she will likely attempt to contact single male members with a very flattering message, usually containing one specific personal line while the rest is copy-and-paste material. The scammer will then go ahead and invite the member to email him or her (the scammer) at a personal address. The scammer then leaves the site and moves on to another without ever returning to the earlier one. In this way, they are not disturbed if their membership is deleted, since they now hope to receive messages at the external email address initially provided.
If a member responds to the scammer’s message, the scammer will then proceed with his or her scheme. Most times, the goal of this scheme is either to have you send them money or to provide them with sensitive information, such as your account details. They will come up with incredible and unique stories to appeal to your sympathetic and romantic side.
Warning signs
Many of these scammers share common characteristics. Understanding and recognizing these characteristics can go a long way in identifying most of these scammers from the start.
Her photos
Photos are an integral part of a scammer’s toolkit. They use photos to back up their storylines and make their personalities seem much more real. They never use photos of themselves, and they look nothing like the person in the photos they use.
These female scammers use photos of someone very young and highly attractive. They choose a source (mostly modeling sites and porn sites) where they can copy multiple photos, and sometimes videos, of the same person, including sexy ones. They will rarely reuse photos provided by scam victims.
You can identify a model photo by any of the following signs:
The photos look professional
There are watermarks on the photos
The person looks like a model
The pictures are in a similar setting that looks like a professional photo shoot
The photos are sexy (e.g., lingerie, swimsuit, unbuttoned top, etc.)
If the photos do not look like model photos, consider the following signs:
The photo does not match the person’s written description (age, eye color, nationality, etc.)
The photos are not clear and are not of a reasonable size and resolution
The person is not able to send you a larger version of the posted photos upon request
It is also a good idea to search online for any photos you receive.
Her profile
The scammer’s profile is the first step in creating his or her character, since it is the first thing the victim will see. The scammer wants the profile to be appealing to his or her targets while reinforcing the image he or she wants to portray. The scammer aims to create the impression that she is a naïve, beautiful, vulnerable, and submissive young woman looking for a man to rescue her.
The age bracket is almost always 18 to 35. Their professions are usually feminine jobs (such as nurse, fashion model, interior decorator, unemployed, or refugee) that make them appear compassionate and non-threatening. On rare occasions, they play the role of a female soldier, as seen in professional military scams.
Although some scammers write their own descriptive text (often in poor English), most scammers copy much of it from legitimate dating site profiles. Commonly used words include: trustworthy, caring, honest, loving, tired of games, and searching for a soulmate.
Her country
Although her profile indicates that she is from the UK, USA, Canada, or another Western country, her email correspondence often suggests otherwise. She may claim she is actually from Russia, Ghana, Nigeria, or the Ivory Coast.
There have been many cases of fake profiles being used on dating websites; these scammers mislead you into believing their lies. These lies can, in the long run, be very damaging to your personal safety, your finances, and your emotional well-being. Beware of scammers whose profiles do not match their words when you begin talking with them. Obvious indicators include a big age difference compared with yours, insistence that you correspond through private email rather than on the website platform, and a sudden change of her email address. It is not particularly difficult to identify a scammer, as they often communicate in a way that seems very unnatural from the beginning; it does not have a comfortable feel, seems forced, and leaves you feeling uneasy.
Look closely at your potential date’s reviews on the website; what other users have experienced with her can tell you a lot about what to expect. You may also find that her contact list includes a number of unrealistic-looking profiles. When you come across someone like this, your warning bells should ring. In such cases, you can ask the dating platform to take action against the profile and blacklist known scammers.
Consider the following warning signs if you feel you are being cheated by a female scammer on various dating websites:
She sends you a letter
She sends you a letter that you have already read somewhere else; this is a clear sign that the user you are dealing with is a scammer. When a beautiful woman contacts you via private email and you do not remember giving your email address to her, you most certainly have a scammer at hand. Look for signs such as repetitive emails, emails that do not answer your questions, and generic messages.
How she uses your name
Since many female scammers use similar methods of communication (even their letters often sound alike), you can learn a lot about your potential date by paying close attention to how she uses your name. When you receive one of her letters, you may notice that you are either addressed by the wrong name or not addressed at all. We are all aware of the importance of good communication, which includes properly addressing someone; when that does not happen, you are likely being contacted by a scammer.
She is wary of personal questions
You will notice that your potential date (read: female scammer) goes out of her way to avoid personal questions. Even after communicating with her for a while, you will not have any substantial knowledge of her personal life. She will not share her family background, contact number, or information about where she lives or works, nor even the tiniest detail that might reveal her true identity.
What you can do in such cases is review her profile and then ask questions based on that information. A female scammer is sure to slip up here and there; this can save you a lot of heartache and possibly serious financial loss. When you sign up on a dating platform and meet someone who seems too good to be true, it is absolutely important to verify their identity.
She falls in love with you
We understand how flattering this can feel, but sadly, this is not how real life works. Only scammers fall in love without ever meeting you. When a potential date on a dating website—often the one with the most attractive photos—claims to have fallen in love with you, you are dealing with a clichéd scammer. They fall in love very quickly and very intensely; this is the moment to end all contact.
This declaration of love is often followed by requests for financial information, assistance with air travel, hotel stays, shopping sprees—essentially, access to your savings.
If you have an account on an online dating platform and are contacted by a beautiful woman whose photos look like they came straight out of a fashion magazine (which they likely did), who provides vague or inconsistent personal information and professes undying love for you, you should verify her identity immediately. She may also ask you to:
Help her manage a large inheritance left by a recently deceased relative
Assist her with severe financial difficulties
Help her with English lessons or lessons in your native language
Fund an expensive medical procedure for her or someone she loves
Pay for her internet connection or electronic devices so she can stay in constant contact with you
The indicators mentioned above are some of the most common signs used to identify female scammers. Many of these individuals are primarily interested in money and are often referred to as money scammers. Their conversations usually revolve around finances—specifically, your money, not theirs.
Scammers of various nationalities can often be identified by the way they conduct correspondence. Some communication styles are associated with Russian scammers, while others are commonly linked to Nigerian scams. Listings of Ukrainian scammers can also be found online to help blacklist known offenders.
If you are interacting online with someone who seems too good to be true, talks excessively about honesty, and whose conversations revolve around money, travel, and declarations of love, you are almost certainly dealing with a scammer. Beware of such female scammers, as they not only cause financial harm but may also expose you to legal trouble. If you or someone you know is being contacted by such individuals, report their profiles immediately to the dating website and end all communication.
There are so many scams relating to dating and these are done through a chain of emails. These scams are targeted for men in first world countries like Canada, Australia, USA and Europe. The Ukrainian online scammers send emails to these men pretending as a girl from Ukraine. Nigerian Love scams are also got some fame because of their use of female photos and emails to lure the men of certain taste.
However, you can always find some signs in those emails which gives away really the nature of that email. All you need to do is pay close attention to the details as they say that these little details are the real deal. There are certain warning signs such in the email the girl will write that she doesn’t has an online presence except for this website and she has financial problems that’s why she works full time and only uses internet when she is at work. She then sends you kisses and more flirting photos in the email. Beware as soon as she tells you that she has this financial problem and she needs you to help her you must know that she is a scam and all your money will be lost because there is no girl on the other side of email it’s just the scammer.
The internet is littered with many dating scams that wants to take money from you. However, you can protect yourself by looking for warning signs in an email that you receive from the girl stating that she is interested in you. These emails have a same pattern and if you look closely in the section mention to whom this email was sent then you will be shocked to find out that your email address is not the only one to whom this email was sent. This means that the sweet girl has sent the same loving message to all of those emails that are in the recipient section.
When you sign up for the dating service be careful to keep your identity safe by giving as little information about yourself as possible because dating sites are the best places for scammer to find their prey. Don’t share your date of birth or your address with anyone on that website. You need to be very vigilant about the user that wants you to email her directly and some others who want you to use some other website which is not even a dating website as the dating websites keeps working hard to keep scammers away from their users.
However, there can be different scenarios in which the scammer can ask you to send them money and one being the “offer to come visit you” scenario. This scenario is quite common in those scam email. The girl will email you and after the exchange of few emails she will express her wish to meet you. She will then ask you that if there could be way that she could meet you in person and then she will offer to come visit you. She will then ask you to pay for her ticket as she cannot afford the ticket to your place. She will convince you that you really want to see her which means that you will have no other option but to send her money. But you can protect yourself by knowing that this is the most common scam technique used by scammers now a day.
Another warning sign is that when she mentions that one of her relative which can be her mother, brother, son, daughter or even grandmother is suffering through some kind of illness and she is devastated by thought of losing that person. She then tells you how she can’t afford to pay medical expenses of that person and she needs your help and ask you to send her some money so that she can help that person with their medical expense. This is a neat trick of scammer to use your emotions against you so beware it’s a scam and stop emailing her at once. You can easily keep yourself safe by paying attention to this little warning sign.
The another warning sign includes that during those emails enhance the girl wants you to share your photos with her. Even though its little hard to tell if that girl is a scam or not from if she asks for your photos however it is better to protect your identity and not sharing photos with the ones you really don’t know or haven’t met yet because a lot of people have felt victim to the photo theft which means that the same scammer that is trying to scam you can use your photo in scamming any other person and that person will think that you are the one who is emailing them and it can be a headache.
These girls in these emails always try to avoid the personal questions and avoid sharing their personal lives in details. Sometimes they are jolly and fun and try to use your native language and then they will tell you how much they want to learn your native language but they can’t because either it’s too expensive on its own or they don’t have the facilities and the means to do so other than taking an expensive online course. Then they convince you to pay the fees this again is a scam which is very common nowadays.
There is another type of scam in which the girl that is emailing you will tease you and be very flirty with you however she will take ages to come online and will have many internet problems as she will tell you how bad it is or how expensive it is in her country and she will ask you to pay for it which you will definitely get ready to pay for because you really like her but if she asks for such a thing then you should know that you are dealing with a scammer. In an another scenario your dream girl the one who is emailing you will ask you to visit her country so that you can meet her face to face and have loads of fun together. The idea of meeting the girl seems so good until she asks you for money so that she can secure lodging and take care of all the expensive so that you can spend as much time as possible with her without worry about lodging and other things because she will have taken care of those things. But because she is asking for your money before even you meet her there is a fair chance that there is a scammer emailing you and will run away with your money and you want get any further emails once you send that money. It is really bad and disheartening feeling when you become victim of such scam because you don’t lose the money only but also get emotionally wrecked when you realize that the girl you were talking to and thought that she was the one for you wasn’t a girl in the first place and she was sweet to you and took care of you but that sweetness and care was just temporary as it all was for a scam. In the period of email exchange, you become emotionally attached to that person and once opts over you are left devastated. It’s easy to overlook such little details however these little warning signs can save you a lot of pain and suffering both financially and emotionally.
Conclusion
If you have initiated communication with anyone online and the person matches many of these characteristics, you are most likely dealing with a scammer. It is also important to note that not all scammers are alike. Therefore, even if a person does not display the characteristics listed above, it is still essential to remain cautious and alert for any signs that something is not right.